Class Act And Fun Facts! How Well Do We Really Know Our Mothers?

Class Act And Fun Facts!  How Well Do We Really Know Our Mothers?

My mom, Merle Mecham Jorgensen, was the oldest and only girl born to my Grandpa and Grandma Mecham.  Six boys would later follow after my mother!  In the beginning chapter of my mom’s history, she includes a few sentences written by her mom–it seems even then that she was developing the sweet, caring personality that she was known for throughout her life; always a class act, to be sure!

“The morning of May 16, 1924, dawned on this treasured infant and her thankful mother–bringing to the mother a gift of heavenly joy, a precious daughter.  The air of the first few weeks of life in Bear Lake, Bloomington, Idaho was perfumed with spring apple blossoms from the orchard.”  

Mom as a baby

My mother continues the introduction of her autobiography in a clever first person perspective, based on facts I’m sure my Grandma Mecham shared with her.

“Summer days flitted by full of interest for me.  And why not?  I had learned to smile and coo, to notice and play with bright, interesting objects in my ever-expanding world.  Everyone around me loved me and I proved the love was reciprocated by smiling and sleeping for them, as a good baby should.”  

A Special Assignment: Getting To Really Know My Mother!

vintage news reporter hat and cameraMy favorite elementary school teacher, Mrs. Larsen, gave my third grade class a brilliant, special assignment that forever changed my view of my mother! At first glance, you’d have thought that Mrs. Larsen should have retired long before she was my teacher in third grade.  All I know is that her love for her students and innovative approach to teaching the lesson subjects, always seemed to inspire me to work hard and love school even more than I did already at the time.

I recall that it was around this time of year, the first part of May, and our class had been studying great women in history for Social Studies.  (I doubt that it was mere coincidence that my teacher decided on this topic of study around Mother’s Day!)  When I walked into our classroom one Monday morning, I saw several felt hats stacked on a table by my teacher’s desk.  Thick ribbons were laid out by the hats along with slips of paper with the words “Press” written on them.  Later, when the ribbon was wrapped above the brim of the hat, we were then instructed as a class to place the press card securely between the fold of the ribbon and the hat.  Normally, I might have felt a little sheepish with the idea of wearing something that seemed so masculine, but Mrs. Larsen’s enthusiasm for our “special assignment” was infectious and we were giddy with excitement!  Mrs. Larsen then passed out official-looking clip boards with a few sheets of paper attached titled, “Fun Facts”!  It was then that I learned I was to become a rookie reporter and would be asking my mother a series of questions while pretending that I was meeting her for the first time and didn’t really know her.  Our class was further instructed that everyone’s answers would then be published in our third grade newsletter and presented to our mothers at a special “Press Release” luncheon.  The anticipation might have waned a little in our classroom when we realized it would be our mothers we’d be interviewing!  I have to admit that it crossed my mind to fill out the “Fun Facts” questionnaire on my own, since in all my astute candor at the age of nine or ten, I thought I was a pretty good expert on my mother!  However, knowing that she would be attending the luncheon, I fulfilled my assignment as a novice news reporter.  How grateful I am that I did the assignment, because I really did get to know my mother better!  It’s a dearly cherished experience to this day.

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Fun Facts About My Mother:

1.  Starting at a young age, my mother gave poem and story recitations at various social functions.  It started with a few short verses and grew to satirical humorous readings.  (One entitled, “I Have The Meanest Mother” was renowned in our community!)  Who knew my mother was a stand-up comedian of sorts!?  Here is an example of one of her first readings she gave when she was four years old:

“Beautiful hands are they that do, the work of the noble, kind and true!”

Also, “I’ll help you and you help me, and what a helping world this will be.”

(This last one, was actually quite familiar, as my mom quoted it often when some family members needed to be convinced that doing our chores was a worthwhile thing to do!) 

2.  My mom loved to practice the piano!  At age seven my grandma gave my mom piano lessons.  “Mother had me practice an hour each day.  Most of my little friends were playing outside, so it was quite a temptation for me to shirk my practicing and join them.”  My mom went on to further explain that her mother devised a way to keep her interested by creating a chart where she earned colored stars for the days and weeks she practiced; at the end of the month a gold star was given for uninterrupted practice time and a reward of her choice was earned!  “I liked to watch my chart grow and soon became so interested in my music that no device was necessary to keep me at my practice.”  My mom later became the pianist for her school orchestra!  (This is not a story I could relate to my children.  I was very creative at figuring out ways to get out of practicing the piano!)  

3.  My mother loved Halloween!  She recalled some of the fun costumes she created when she was young and how much fun it was to “traipse” through her neighborhood with a large group of friends and most of her brothers!  The real revelation for me was that the tradition for celebrating Halloween was carried on well into her adulthood!  When my mom was in college she belonged to a sorority, and at Halloween time the sorority girls invited friends who didn’t belong and together they designed costumes and scavenger hunts and invited dates.

“It was just as if ghosts had really been turned out on the street…after we returned home with our brains full of funny experiences that had been encountered that night, we all sat down to a delicious meal and shared our stories.” 

4.  My mom had a secret weakness for caramel popcorn!  It makes me chuckle to know that the queen of healthy eating, who usually served at least two or three vegetables at each meal, had a sweet tooth!  (Our family’s favorite Caramel/Cashew Popcorn recipe will follow shortly in an upcoming entry!)

5.  My mom was a business major in college and was chosen as the Valedictorian of her entire graduating class!  I’d heard a bit about this while growing up from my dad, since that is where he first saw my mom, but my mother never made a big deal about this honor.  In her history my mom wrote,

I was announced as the college Valedictorian during spring quarter of 1945.  I felt honored and worked hard to write and memorize my talk.  I had studied hard, but enjoyed the learning and maturing college life afforded me.”  

My mom also stated that her graduation was a time of great rejoicing for several reasons.

“World War II started during my first quarter of college in 1941.  The war in Europe ended on V-E Day (Victory in Europe), May 8, 1945, during my last quarter of college.” What I’m learning now is…

In really getting to know my mother, I relish the fact that everything seemed so lovely and enchanting during the early years of her youth!  Like most mothers, she was happy to assume the role of caretaker and loved her family deeply.  What I’m learning now is that we can learn a lot about ourselves as we take the time to really get to know our mothers!  Getting to really know our mothers, as well as other women we know, aside from their roles as wives and mothers, can also create strong bonds that are sure to enrich our lives!  My mother was always genuinely interested in others and learning about the fun facts that made them unique!

Surprise your mom and make some time for a little impromptu interview with her and learn some “Fun Facts” about her that you may not have known before now.  Write a few down on some special paper, (you can find some here to download at bottom of entry) along with your own special memories of your mom!  I’d love to hear about some of the fun things you learn, if you’d like to share them.

–Mary             

Happy Earth Day! Tweaking The Perspective A Little!

Celebrating Earth Day But Tweaking The Perspective A Little

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Growing up, I watched the intimate relationship my dad had with the land on our wheat farm so he could provide a good living.  I saw first-hand how my father truly respected his little corner of the earth so to speak, and the deep sense of satisfaction he received from the hard work his farm provided.

For my father, each day he was able to spend tending to his farm was an “earth day” celebration of sorts.

He recorded the following in his autobiography…

“To go out to the farm in the spring with the birds, the sky, the soil and all the machinery and get everything going, and then to see the hills cultivated in such a nice way was very satisfying.”

In considering the events of the past week, perhaps we’d all be better served if we paused a minute, took a deep breath, and celebrated earth day by looking around us and realizing once again, that we truly are blessed!  We might ask ourselves, “Am I doing what I was put on this earth to do?”   (I know, maybe a little intense–it’s just where my mind has been lately.)

As I’ve said in this previous post, I often feel a deep sense of kinship with mother earth while working in my yard.  If I get discouraged or feel a bit overwhelmed, I literally turn to earth’s dirt to give me better perspective of what a wonderful place this world really is, and how fortunate I am to share a small part in it!

Happy Earth Day–Be Inspired By It’s Beauty!

I hope that these artful pictures taken by my daughter-in-law, Whitney Wilding, and my son-in-law, Cole Gibbons, (both beautiful photographers) help us all to remember again, that no matter what, we really can all work together to make this wonderful planet earth a better place to live!

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Butterfly Conservatory in Buffalo, New York

Adirondacks

Breathtaking view in Letchworth State Park, complete with rainbow!

Big Sur-California

Big Sur, California

Flower in pond at Conservatory Garden in Central Park

Conservatory Garden in Central Park in New York City

Lower Manhattan from 850 ft

  A beautiful view of lower Manhattan!  A view Cole and Mandi see each morning!

Central Park in winter

 A winter wonderland view of Central Park!

Hurricane aftermath

 Hurricane aftermath in New York City–Mother Nature reminds us of our vulnerabilities!

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What I’m learning now is…

As we look around, it doesn’t take long to realize that we are indeed privileged to live here on earth.  What I’m learning now is that more often than not, it seems like it takes some sort of tragedy or unusual circumstances to startle our senses into helping us remember the fact that we truly are so blessed!  Getting older has helped give me a better appreciation for most things in life, and yet, we are all prone to take some things for granted.  

 

I’d love for you to share any photos or thoughts you have about this great place we call earth!

–Mary

Words Of Wisdom…Oh The Fun Of Learning From Our Children!

Words Of Wisdom…Oh The Fun Of Learning From Our Children!

Norman Rockwell Family Image

“Children have a way of making your life feel important!”  Erma Bombeck

My mom was a fan of the “words of wisdom” and satirical views on motherhood by the humorist and author, Erma Bombeck.   The quote above was written on a slip of paper that was kept on a book shelf by my mom’s desk in our family study.  Erma Bombeck was also the author of the quote:

It goes without saying, never have more children than you have car windows!”

I like the Chinese Proverb:

“To understand our parent’s love, we must raise children ourselves!” 

So true, don’t you think?  Talk about building character!

One of my greatest hopes is that when it’s all said and done, in some small way, I’ve left the type of impression on my children that my father’s parents seemed to have left on him…

“I appreciate the fact that my childhood included so many things which seem to belong to that period of life.  I feel that my family, friends and all who touched my life, knowingly or unknowingly, did so in such a way as to give it direction…I acquired a value system which in spite of weaknesses, has saved me from serious mistakes and helped me reach up, in a measure at least, to what my better self was capable of becoming.”  

–from the history of LeRoy Jorgensen

Words of Wisdom From Our Children Help Define Our Lives, As Well As Theirs!

children are the promise of the future

If you’ve read my about me introduction, you know that I have been a nurse on a women’s unit for many years.  This profession has allowed me the privilege of witnessing the birth of many babies.  After all these years, I am still in awe of all the amazing things that the birth process entails.  I’ll never forget the framed quote on the wall of the first Newborn Intensive Care Unit where I worked as a new nursing graduate.

“A baby is God’s opinion that the world should go on.”  Carl Sandberg  

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Erma Bobbeck had a comical, if not wise take on motherhood…

“Giving birth is a set of contractions granting passage of a child, it is then that a mother is born!”

During my childhood and youth, I loved that my parents seemed to give as much credibility, if not more, to the dreams I had for myself, as they did the ones they envisioned for me.  Their motto for raising children seemed to follow the advice stated rather matter-of-factly in one of my favorite poems by Shel Silverstein, in his collection of poems and drawings entitled, “Where the Sidewalk Ends”. 

LISTEN TO THE MUSTN’TS

Listen to the MUSTN’TS, child

Listen to the DONT’S

Listen to the SHOULDN’TS

The IMPOSSIBLES, the WON’TS

Listen to the NEVER HAVES

Then listen close to me–

Anything can happen, child,

              ANYTHING can be!               

Some words of wisdom that my mom’s dad, my Grandpa Mecham, used to be fond of sharing was that, “Insanity is inherited, we get it from our children!”  I think any parent out there can certainly attest to the truth of this statement at some point during their tenure as parents.  My dad would also wax strong with a bit of wise counsel himself on occasion; they were words of wisdom that I did not fully appreciate until I had children of my own…go figure!?  Perhaps in trying to ease some seemingly tentative moments as a concerned parent, my father would lovingly lock me in a gentle neck hug, and tell me with an ample amount of jest that he and my mom loved me, and then he was always quick to add, “especially when you’re asleep!”

 What I’m learning now is…

It’s so cliché, but wise to recognize, that childhood can be a magical time and truly does go by in ‘a blink of an eye’ !  What I’m learning now is that much of our immortality does indeed seem to be found in the lives of our children.

Immortality found in the lives of your children

Jake, Mandi and Malia Wilding (1987)  Where have the years gone?

What are some profound “words of wisdom” your children have shared with you over the years!  Let’s enjoy some good laughs and insights together!

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“Becoming a grandparent is one of life’s rewards for surviving raising your own children!”  Erma Bombeck

–Mary